Friday, September 26, 2014

We don't want more kids

I was praying this morning knowing that today is the day we are announcing our newest fundraiser.  I prayed that I was able to help people understand why we are asking for their help, and it occurred to me that we needed to share an awful truth.  We don't want more kids!!

Now don't misunderstand me.  We love our children and we are excited to be adopted again, but it was the last thing we wanted.  We wanted to settle in to our little routine and live comfortably, make enough money to pay the bills, struggle occasionally (probably because of an unwise decision on our end), and raise the kids we have.  We wanted a pool, and chickens, we wanted everyone to have their own bedroom and to have a master bathroom.  The problem is, that was what we wanted it wasn't what God wanted for us.  And that was a reality that we had to face, look square in the eye and say, "Really?".

Before I get off on a tangent about choosing what God wants over what we want, I will stop myself and stay on task.  So many times when people hear about adoption fundraisers the mentality is, "Why would I help them grow their family? Its their choice, they should have to deal with the costs."  So I want to be clear, this is NOT our choice.  While we are happy to be following God's will, we did not choose this adoption.  Since we have been called to this, we are going to give it our all.

So that is why we are fundraising, because we don't want more kids.  But God wants more kids for us and the one thing our family wants more than chickens, or a pool, or even a master bathroom is to do what God wants our family to do.  We want our children to soar with wings that only God can give them.  The only way to encourage this is to show it, to let them know that living outside our comfort level and to seek after God's will is important to us and should be important to them.

So if you don't want to support our fundraiser, that's fine. But if you want to be a part of helping our family reach beyond what is humanly possible, then we hope you come along side us.  Because on the other side of the impossible is a child or two that needs a family.  A family that will encourage it to soar on wings not our own.



For more details on our latest fundraiser go to: http://www.eventbrite.com/e/bowling-benefit-wheatfield-lanes-tickets-13328601205

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Long Way Home

Many of you know that we are in the process of adoption...Again. And I couldn't be more excited! I heard this song "Long Way Home" by Steven Curtis Chapman on YouTube, and it describes our long and hard journey through life on our way to Heaven. But as I it here, and see a bunch of adoption paperwork sitting on the desk, I can't help but think that this describes the adoption process in a way. There are mountains to climb, and valleys to go through. But in the end, it's a wonderful (not to mention lengthy) journey, where the destination is bringing a child in need into your family, hence the word "home".
I set out on a great adventure
The day my Father started leading me home
He said there's gonna be some mountains to climb
And some valleys we're gonna go through

But I had no way of knowing
Just how hard this journey could be
Cause the valleys are deeper
And the mountains are steeper than I ever would have dreamed

But I know we're gonna make it
And I know we're gonna get there soon
And I know sometimes it feels like we're going the wrong way
But its just the long way home

I got some rocks in my shoes
Fears I wish I could lose
That make the mountains so hard to climb
And my heart gets so heavy with the weight of the world sometimes

There's a bag of regrets,
My should've beens, and not yets
I keep on dragging around
And I can hardly wait for the day I get to lay them all down

I know that day is coming
I know its gonna be here soon
And I won't turn back even if the whole world says I'm going the wrong way
Cause its just the long way home

When we can't take another step
The Father will pick us up and carry us in His arms
And even on the best days, He says to remember we're not home yet
So don't get too comfortable
Cause really all we are is just pilgrims passing through

Well, I know we're gonna make it
And I know we're gonna get there soon
So I keep on singing and believing
What all of my songs say

Cause our God has made a promise
And I know that everything He says is true
And I know wherever we go
He will never leave us
Cause He's gonna lead us home

Every single step of the long way home
(Keep going, we're gonna make it)
(I know, we're gonna make it)
(We're just taking the long way home)
(Keep going, we're gonna make it)
(I know, we're gonna make it)
(We're just taking the long way home)
(Keep going, we're gonna make it)
(I know, we're gonna make it)
(We're just taking the long way home)
(Keep going, we're gonna make it)
(I know, we're gonna make it)
It's just a long way home

-Abby 

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Referral Alert


If we got a referral today, would you want to know?

One of the most exciting times for an adoptive family is getting a referral of their child, we would love to share with you when we do, but we won't be able to share details on Facebook or the internet in general.  If you want up to date information, you need to subscribe to our mailing list.  Sign up below.

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Monday, August 25, 2014

Understand your Brand

One trend you see on social network groups like LinkedIn lately is a trend of understanding your personal brand.  Knowing what it is that makes you tick, what things you most enjoy doing and what skills you bring to the table that you really excel at.  The trick to understanding your personal brand is knowing where these items collide.  This post is to explain my brand to those that don't know me.  Not because I am looking to market my brand, but because it will help anyone that ever wonders what it is that I do, understand me a little better.  People have asked my wife before what I do and she usually references Chandler Bing from the TV show Friends.  Chandler leaves for work and comes home, but no one really knows what he is doing the whole time.  So here is my chance to help anyone that has ever wondered, understand my brand.

A Numbers Guy

This is a phrase that people have used to describe me for quite some time.  When I was a car salesperson I would typically out maneuver people to win the monthly bonus, not because I was a better salesperson but because I understood the numbers behind the bonus board.  You didn't have to sell the most cars if you sold the right ones.  When I became a sales manager I learned to love ratios to track performance of my team.  Marketing to lead, leads to appointments, and appointment to sales ratios were tracked constantly to drive sales.   Knowing where the numbers should be for each lead type helped me to know where my team needed more focused training.  I seemed to be the only one surprised that accounting kept coming up as a good option for me when I took career profiles, I saw accounting a s a dull use of numbers.  Using them to track dollars and cents that have already been spent.

The Administrator

The second thing that makes up who I am is an administrator.  I learned about this gift as part of a church wide campaign to learn about our spiritual gifts.  I ranked so high in the administrator category that it drowned out some of my other gifts.  An administrator is someone that can see an organization, and understands how the different processes of an organization work together to make a cohesive unit.  Its a keen understanding of how things work in a business environment. I have always known I had this gift, but I didn't realize that everyone else was not as able to do this as I was.  Right now at work when there is a new process that needs to be implemented, it is brought to me (if not brought up by me) because I understand how the different pieces work together.  If fact where I work currently I have, over the past 5 years, redesigned the way organization and information flow in our business.  In order to collect and analyse the numbers that are derived from business.

Lover of Small Business

This is one that not everyone would know about me.  I absolutely love working in small business.  The things I love about it are the ability to give input that directly can be implemented and start making a difference.  Things are changing all the time so processes need to be tweaked and adjusted to account for the change.  It keeps the creative part of my brain happy.  Doing the same thing over and over again would cause monotony and make me go crazy.  Some people love that kind of monotony, I am not one of them.  There are downfalls to small business.  I could probably earn more at a larger company, and the benefits might be better.  But there is something to be said for working 5 minutes from home, at a job you love, in an industry that is changing.

Finding the Sweet Spot

So now that you know some of the parts that make up who I am, how does that relate to my personal brand.  My personal brand is in what I call the sweet spot.  Finding the place in which all three things that make me, well me, intersect.  Here is a visual for those that need it:


There are many people who are numbers guys, many administrators, and many people that love small business.  The sweet spot is where all three of these things combine to give me the unique combination that I have.  When I went back to school to get my MBA, I realized there was a kind of accountant that is called a managerial accountant.  The difference between a CPA (which is what most people think of when they hear accountant) and a managerial accountant is huge.  Here is a basic analogy, a CPA is a bean counter, they let you know precisely how many beans you have at what time.  A managerial accountant helps a business, understand how their beans are being spent and how to create more beans.  Both are important, but both bring different skills to the table.  Big companies have both.  Small businesses have neither.  They have a CPA they count on to help with their taxes, but most do not typically a employ a managerial accountant.  They likely either don't understand the difference, or can't afford to employ one.

My Brand

So here is my brand.  I am a managerial accountant, that is fortunate enough to have found a small business owner with multiple business that allows me to use my administrative skills to develop processes inside these businesses.  Process that feeds data to the numbers guy, so he can track business efficiency, measure profitability and give back reports to the administrator to recommend improvements or changes.  In a company small enough to be able to implement these changes if management agrees the change is necessary. 

I hope you enjoyed reading about and learning about me.  Each one of us have been given a unique combination of skills, gifts, and experiences that make us who we are.  We each have our own brand.  If you don't yet know your brand I would recommend that you work through a process like this one and help understand who God made you to be.  When you find out who that is, find your way to the sweet spot and enjoy using the gifts, it makes the giver happy to see you using them.


Tuesday, August 5, 2014

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This post is here so we have a link to share for people that want to follow us on our journey.

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Monday, July 28, 2014

Adoption Fundraiser: How do Colt's tickets sound?

Fundraising Kickoff

In order to start this adoption process we need a bit of a jump start on the funds.  We have been blessed with a friend who was willing to donate some Colts tickets to be raffled off.  Proceeds will go towards the costs of our application fees, home study, and agency fees

Game Info

The game in question is Saturday, August 23rd at 8:00 PM EST.  It is a pre-season game against the New Orleans Saints.  While this is a pre-season game, these aren't just any seats.  These are 4 Club Seats, Section 342, Row 2.  This pictures give you an idea of your view.  In case your wondering, yes this is the Colts sideline, and yes those are padded seats.  To read more about Club seating, click HERE.  It's pretty sweet!  By the way if you only have two people that can go, I can think of a couple that would love to join.


How do I enter?

There are three easy ways to enter to win these great tickets.

1. Donate

You knew that was coming.  You can donate easily and quickly online.  We have set up a Go Fund Me account to make it easy to donate.  You can click on the link at the bottom of this section to go there.

http://www.gofundme.com/c7v30k

For every $10 donated you will get one entry into the raffle, the more you donate, the more entries you get, and the better your chances at scoring these sweet tickets.  Make sure when you donate you leave contact info so we know how to contact you if you win.

2. Share


In this social networked world, we want to get the word out.  So after you've donated share this with everyone you can think of.  We are sending this through a site that will let us know how many times it was shared and by who.  Forward the email, share us on Facebook or Twitter.  For each share you get an additional entry.

3. Sign up for our Adoption Updates

On our blog posting that announces our adoption we had a spot for you to sign up to receive our emails. You can access that blog HERE.  If you don't really want the updates then at least sign in until we announce the winner.  It makes it much easier for us to track you down if you win.  You can always unsubscribe if you don't want to hear from us after the contest ends.

Final Details

This contest is time sensitive.  The raffle will begins now and will continue until August 15th at midnight.  The winner will be announced sometime on the 16th.  Because we are asking people to share it with others, its very possible that we don't know the winners.  So please if you don't know us list your information somehow for us to find it.  We want to make sure we get the tickets in the winners hands.  If you would like to donate and are not interested in the tickets also lets us know so that we can make sure they go to someone who really wants them.


God Bless.

Let the Cat out of the Bag


Anyone that has talked to us lately knows we have been talking about adopting again.  It has been a subject that has been on our radar for a while.  Earlier this month we were talking to some adoptive friends of ours and they were feeling the same tug on their hearts.  They mentioned that they were praying through the month of July to see if now was the time that the Lord wanted them to start.  We loved this idea and decided to join them in praying through July for the Lord to put on our hearts what his plan was in this.

As we approach the end of July we both feel strongly that the Lord wants us to move forward with adopting again, but we still weren't sure on the time frame.  We are going through a series at church called Man on Fire, it is about Moses and his journey of faith and how God used him.  This series has really hit home for us because so often we are just like the Israelites, we moan for meat after God provides us with daily bread, we know God promised to go before us into the promised land but we are scared because there are giants.  We forget everything the Lord has done for us and forget to trust Him in the future.  We take the things that we think will keep us safe and make idols out of them, work, money, savings, security.  Lastly we put limits on God, we make deals as if God is withholding His blessing from us until we do something, when the fact is that He is the blessing and He is all we need.  Our job is to follow Him, to obey Him.

So we have decided to adopt.  We are still working out the details as far as when to file the paperwork and start our home study as our house is on the market still and there are some details still falling in place.  We had come to the conclusion we were going to adopt a week or so ago but something came up that is causing us to let the cat out of the bag a little earlier than we anticipated.  As you know adoption is an expensive venture, and by human standards we have no business adopting again.  However we also believe that what God calls us to he will also carry us through, which also means we need to be willing to work, and trim off any excess budget, and do what we don't want to do to (fundraising) in order to get there.

I know a number of people don't like other people fundraising for adoption, and if you are in that category please don't feel obligated to give.  But we also know that there are many that God have put in our lives that would be honored to help bring a child into a loving Christian home.  Fundraising is simple a tool that allows them to support whatever cause that God puts on their hearts.

What has caught us to let the cat out of the bag is our first fundraiser.  It is a time sensitive fundraiser and the sooner we can get it "kicked-off" the better.  You can read more about that soon as we get the details "tackled", but trust me.  You don't want to "pass" it up.

Due to the changes in Facebook and our inability to blog regularly, we have come up with an easy way to inform people that are interested in following our adoption through email.  Simply sign up in the link below and we will send out emails as things progress.  We will still blog from time to time, and probably post on Facebook.  But we will always send out the email first and we will also send out a lot more emails than any other method of communication.  We hope to use it for adoption updates, prayer request, and fundraiser announcements.  If you get sick of getting emails you can unsubscribe at any time.

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